Here’s why ‘Khaas’ is a Must-Watch for Both Pakistani Men and Women
Sanam Baloch’s Khaas on HUM TV has been evidently going strong.
The drama has naturally created a massive buzz, kick-starting thought-provoking social media conversations.
Clearly, it has hit a deep nerve with Pakistani women, who cannot help claiming how realistic Khaas has been so far. It has become as exceptional as its name – a voice for the victims of emotional abuse in our society.
However, this piece is not to sing praises for the drama or establish how relatable it is for most women in the country.
It is to urge Pakistani men to watch Khaas, share equal viewership along with women and realize how this truthful depiction of a toxic marriage can help both partners shape a healthy relationship.
Takeaways for Pakistani Men and Women from the Drama
With its poignant plot and convincing characters, Khaas is a story that is possibly the tale of many Pakistani households.
The drama unfolds so many lessons in between Saba’s sensitive nature, Ammar’s manipulative behavior, a possessive mother-in-law and parents that refuse to believe you.
Ammar, played by Ali Rehman Khan, is a husband who doesn’t realize he is a narcissist and emotionally abusive. Saba, played by Sanam Baloch, is a wife that tries hard to cope with her dysfunctional marriage life.
As she finds a friend in the modest and humble, Faakhir played by Haroon Shahid, their strong bond has been a topic of great debate. Ammar’s old flame, the antagonist Salma has a powerful role to play in Khaas. Her entry, thought late in the story, brings the much-needed twist in the tale.
“Men should watch Khaas to actually realize that women are not objects to keep their fragile egos intact. They are competent and don’t push them too hard that shall break them and you. They are yours and be proud of them. And parents keep your eyes open to your kids.”
Haroon Shahid shed light on how little things can make or break a relationship by stating that:
“Khaas has a number of small lessons that are highlighted in the drama. Over the years, various trivial issues in our society have been normalized under the cloak of innocent jokes. So I think it is an important aspect that the drama highlights how the smallest things, which are uttered as sarcasm,can actually hurt someone.”
It is also important for mother-in-law’s and parents to watch Khaas. While other dramas too depict husband-wife relationships, Khaas especially teaches parents how they can either make or break a marital life.
In a nutshell, the drama is for all to learn from. It is for everyone and every age group. It shouldn’t be just targeted to either men or women since both genders need to realize the mistakes highlighted in the drama
Hira Tareen rightly highlighted how Khaas can influence husbands along with women to build healthy relationships by saying:
“Stories like Khaas are a realistic reflection of society. Men and women both need to watch together to realize how negative words can leave deep scars on a relationship and can affect it permanently. Khaas also depicts the dichotomy and double standards in attitudes towards women as opposed to men in some joint family structures.”
Whether you’re a male or female, when you watch these kinds of stories from the outside looking in, it may influence you to tread a little more carefully in your relationships as they are delicate and need to be handled with love and positivity.
Ammar Shows How Words Can Hurt More Than Punches
Ali Rehman Khan has perfectly depicted how a controlling husband can be like. One day he is sweet, romantic and shower you with all the material glories. However, the next day he will belittle you over something petty and isolate you.
His behavioral change and jealousy with Saba after marriage, gas lighting, verbal abuses and constant bullying were clearly emotionally draining for her. So much so, Ammar’s luxurious presents were not even close enough to heal Saba’s bleeding heart. After all, fancy things can never cover-up for unnecessary drama in a relationship.
Here’s what Danish, Haroon, and Hira have to say over Ammar’s future in the drama:
I think Ammar has already gotten what he deserves by marrying someone who has no respect for him and his family. He should by now realize what he lost because of the decisions he made. He should have found comfort in Saba and should have given her the respect and place that she deserves, says Danish Nawaz.
Ammar will probably find his end soon and he will probably know what he has done. I hope he realizes it, says Haroon Shahid.
I would advise Ammar to not take relationships so lightly and don’t just value things when they slip away, says Hira Tareen.
Saba teaches us That Being Sensitive is Not a Sin
Of course, Saba exhibited on countless occasions that she was a sensitive soul. She used to deeply feel Ammar’s indifferent attitude, harsh remarks, and insults, especially those that concerned her parents.
Her miscarriage grief broke her into pieces and made her feel even more vulnerable. Meanwhile, the rest didn’t understand her depression, shamed her for being a fragile woman and being an emotional mess.
But over time, we saw a sensitive Saba display tremendous strength as she stood up against Ammar and his disloyalty.
In her character we learned, that sensitive people are very emphatic in nature. Their delicacy is their strength and people of such quality should never be shunned in society. They might be slightly different from the rest but they are in fact super humans and can surprise you when you least expect it.
Although they totally detest Saba in the drama, Ali and Hira have empowering advice for her:
“For Saba, she has just done the right thing. She has fought for herself, she has stood up for herself and she needs to keep doing the same thing, claims Ali Rehman.”
My advice to Saba will be to stay strong, there’s darkness right before dawn, says Hira Tareen.”
Salma’s Character displays that Karma Always Hits You Hard
People who create their own drama deserve some major Karma. And Ammar got the taste of his own medicine through his second-wife, Salma.
Unlike Saba, she showed no regards towards him or his family. She openly disapproved of his demeaning remarks and lashed out at him when he refused to fulfill her demands.
What’s more, Salma showed zero tolerance over Ammar’s vile habits, something that came as a shock to him and disturbed him to the core.
Hira Tareen gives an important message for Salma, something all women can take note of, “To Salma I would say, being strong and straightforward is good but not when it only benefits you. She should be more considerate of others and little more flexible towards change in life.”
Haroon & Saba: To be or not to be?
Not all fans of Khaas agree with Haroon and Saba’s deep friendship. They both have sailed through troublesome waters and perhaps, are alike in many ways.
So what does the future hold for them? Have they been all together right in developing their relationship or they should have tread more carefully?
The director has already given us a hint over their future by stating, “For Saba And Fakhir, I think their path will soon meet.”
However, Hira Tareen believes that Faakhir should have been smarter throughout and says, ” To Fakhir I would say, being a goodhearted and caring person is great but when you really care about someone you also respect their space and the timing of things. Showing up to Saba’s house uninvited or calling her while she’s married was bound to make things more difficult for her. So be smarter about how and when you go about things.”
Meanwhile, Haroon explains why his character in the tale feels so much for Saba by saying:
At some level, there has been a misconception in the minds of the viewers that Faakhir is creepy because he loves someone who looks like his mother. That’s not the case.
The real thing why Faakhir feels for her is because of the same thing that his mother went through and he doesn’t want someone, yes who he likes, to go through the same trauma. That’s the more important aspect of Faakhir and his affection for Saba.
To sum up, Khaas has a lot to teach us all. If the lessons in it are taken seriously, it can actually save marriages and teach Pakistani couples where they are going wrong in a relationship.
While many might argue that one drama might not be so influential to make a massive change, I believe it is just the start. More projects inspired by Khaas can help people recognize some of the symptoms of relationship abuse and enable people to seek help.